Thesis: Understanding your ideal day is to understand the life you need to create for yourself.
Unfortunately, much of life is doing things we don’t enjoy. This is an inherent part of life, and cannot be avoided. The flip side of the coin is people making choices that lead them towards a life they don’t want. If there are large parts of your day you spend doing things you hate, you need to change something. If you work a job you hate, you need to change your job. If you commute for 2 or 3 hours a day, you need to live closer to your work.
I always find it fascinating to hear about people’s daily routine. I was talking to a couple of my work colleagues and they both said they find it impossible to wake up in the morning without taking a shower. This astounded me because when I wake up in the morning I am full of energy. I also love to read about how the most routines of the most successful people in the world. I love the book Daily Rituals: How Artists Work which describes the daily life of artists like Kafka, Tchaikovsky Picasso, and Darwin worked.
Some of these artists managed to create amazing work while living a daily life they hated. Kafka’s literary style was massively influenced by his 9-5 job he hated. The pinnacle of life of course is creating something beautiful and lasting in life, AND having a great lifestyle you have created.
The Things I Want To Do:
Wake up early: I am young and ambitious, and I feel best when I wake up early and tackle the tasks I need to do during the day. Waking up early is not waking up at 4:00 am, ideally it is around 6 :00 am or 6:30 am, but definitely not past 7:00 am. Most importantly I never use the alarm on my phone, I use an Analog Alarm Clock. The simple reason for this is that I don’t want to use my phone first thing in the morning, I believe this psychologically primes people to use their phone excessively.
Exercise: My best days always involve exercise at some point, and I prefer it to be in the morning, a couple of hours after I wake up. This will usually involve 45-60 minutes of lifting, and then some light stretching afterwards. However I may decide to go for a run instead, the principle remains the same – exercise is an imperative part of a good day for me.
Building: This is relatively ambiguous because it could involve any number of activities. The essence is creating something and reaping the rewards of focus and discipline. This could involve building and developing professional relationships through networking, or it could involve working to grow this website or a business venture.
Writing: My number one creative expression is writing, it helps me to understand the world and myself. When I write I delve deeper into the ideas I care about and this helps to solidify my viewpoints. It’s also one of the most humbling thing I do, many ideas that float through my head I will start writing about and start realizing they are dumb as hell. This is infinitely valuable.
Socializing: No man is an island, if your ideal day involves only solitary activities there may be something wrong with your brain chemistry. The social activity I engage on in any given day will vary greatly. Some days it may be a pick-up soccer game with a group of friends. Another day it may be going out for dinner with friends, or going to a bar and drinking and laughing with strangers until the early morning.
Love-making: This one is self-explanatory.
The Things I Would Avoid Doing:
Social Media: This is a topic I have written about at length, it arouses negative feelings and invariably leads to comparisons which cause competition anxiety. The way I use social media is the best way to use it if you have it, but the days I don’t check social media are the days where I am preoccupied doing stuff I actually care about.
Sleeping In: I value productivity and achievement, and I work more effectively in the morning than I do in the evening. Therefore I have absolutely no interest in sleeping in, in my ideal day.
Pornography: This is an absolute no-no. Pornography is one of the greatest poisons of our generation. It’s also the exact opposite of the love-making I would be engaging in, in my ideal day.
Chronic Stress: Obviously there are life events such as losing a family member that will lead to periods of chronic stress, this is unavoidable. However most of the chronic stress people experience is because of bad lifestyle design. This could be someone working a job they hate, or being in a relationship with someone who treats them poorly.
Take The Time To Write Out Your Ideal Day
Everyone has 24 hours in their day. The people who achieve their goals and dreams use their time effectively to build the life they want. The people that give up on their goals do not talk about giving up on their goals. They express this through resentment and negativity. Giving up on your goals and resigning yourself to a life you don’t want is one of the worst things you can do.
Live your life to the fullest.